When you’re getting married for the second time, you will likely want your ceremony to be a little different. This is especially true if your previous marriage ended due to the death of your spouse rather than a divorce. In that case, you may want your wedding officiant to be respectful of that previous relationship. Here are a few things to keep in mind when customizing your second wedding’s script to avoid awkward statements.
Think About the Audience
Your wedding focuses on your commitment to your spouse, but you do have an audience there as well. Think about how they may perceive what’s being said. Many traditional wedding scripts for first marriages talk about finding love and leaving your parents to form a new family. This could be upsetting to any children you may have, plus it could make people feel uncomfortable. This is especially true if your happy first marriage ended because you lost your spouse.
Do You Want to Acknowledge Your Previous Marriage?
This is another question where the way your previous marriage ended will impact the answer. If you are a widow or widower, you may want your previous spouse acknowledged in some way. For example, your wedding officiant could talk about learning to love again or finding comfort in a new partner. It’s very likely everyone in attendance will know about any previous marriages you both have had, so it may be better to acknowledge those marriages instead of pretending they don’t exist.
There Is No Wrong Answer
Remember, your wedding is for you and your soon-to-be-spouse. While you both may want to acknowledge previous marriages, you don’t have to. Talk to your wedding officiant about if or how you want these previous relationships to be acknowledged, and only include what you’re comfortable with.